I’ve seen people struggling for no good reason, yet when we dig a little we discover they haven’t yet made the decision that they “can” and “will” succeed.

Have you made the choice to succeed?

You may have heard people say that when they made their mind up to do it, everything fell into place. Sometimes we can take forever to make a choice, going backwards and forwards, before making a choice about something. And yet when we make a choice to succeed, everything somehow begins to fit.

Going back a few years I saw personal development guru, Tony Robbins demonstrate this during a game of “Simon says”. He simply whittled the audience down from 9000 to 1, then asked the winner about his strategy. He said, “I decided I was going to win and I just did what it took.”

In sport you can usually see a champion before they raise the trophy. There is a  hunger to win. There’s an air of expectancy. There’s frustration when it doesn’t go well, elation when it does. The moment they sniff victory they seek to kill a game off. If they go behind you’ll see them rise up and throw everything they have at the opponent.

And this is what someone does when they decide they “can” and “will” succeed. Suddenly everything begins to slip into place and pretty soon more and more things start to work in harmony.

And this happens because in making the decision to succeed you create the  time to succeed. The energy then flows because you actually realise that nothing else is more important. You simply make a decision.

Sometimes when we make the choice to succeed we seem to meet everything that’s not what we want. It’s like going on a diet and having people suddenly start offering you chocolate.

In business when you decide to succeed you start to notice your attitude, your professionalism and maybe where you come up short. That’s something I’ve certainly noticed in me at times. You notice where your knowledge is lacking and where you’re a bit naïve, and where there are gaping holes that need filling in service and delivery.

I was standing on a hilltop a while back with a couple of guys who are marketing experts. These guys are at the top of their game, working with corporations and top celebrities. As we were talking, I noticed there were things I needed to do in my business. All these guys were doing was shining a torchlight. And in moments like that you can either shrink or shine.

Mentoring business owners down the years I’ve seen things gelling with people. They morph as their ideas come together, as they pull fragments of their full-self together and their dreams gel and they start to materialise to the point where they change from hoping they can actually sense the victories arriving.

And I can tell you the moment where I see people change. I see them change at the point where their optimism changes to “expectation” and then goes up to knowing and seeing the results.

It’s an exciting time. It’s a very exciting time!

With Good wishes
Neil

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It was one of those days, everyone seemed to be picking on me: my kids, my bank, my electricity supplier, even my computer. And everything that should have been done, was just taking longer and longer. Then something occurred to me.

Moving Away From Negative Energy

I’d decided to remove myself from all the negative energy, and decided to shut myself away from everything. And in the peace and tranquillity of that space I discovered something.

What was it?

I was the common denominator – the one they were all picking on.

Gradually it all began to unfold. I was in a bad mood. It was me that was having the impact on everything around me. All that was happening was that everything was reflecting back at me what I was putting out.

And that was when I picked up a book I recommend you read, ‘Ask and it is Given‘ by Ester and Jerry Hicks. The book fell open on these words: ‘Your thoughts absolutely equal your point of attraction, the better you feel the more everything around you improves.’

And then a few lines down, the book continued to rub salt into my wounds. ‘When you put yourself on a schedule where there is a deadline, then often the shortage of time or money looms up and contradicts the energy, making you miserable.’

I got the point!!

It Seems to Come From Nowhere
Frustration can seem to bubble up out of the blue. However, if I looked back on my day there were pointers right from early morning. First thing, as I was dressing I asked my partner if something at work was frustrating her. She told me no and I concluded I had got it wrong. Then there were computer problems, then a power cut, my bank failed to wire money on a business deal that could be worth a substantial sum. The whole day just built up, right to the moment where my son disagreed with me and my daughter raised her voice.

But get this.

When I wanted to say something back. But instead of saying anything I got one of those irritating tickles in the back of my throat that rendered my voice useless. All that came out was a helpless croak. And while my son and my partner fell about laughing and my daughter marched off to her bedroom in annoyance, I decided to call it a day and closed myself away to reflect.

The Truth
Frustration doesn’t come from nowhere. It’s the build up of events, often self-inflicted deadlines or unreasonable demands. As the pressure mounts we become less reasonable, with ourselves, with others and even with our work.

The words of Ester and Jerry Hicks were timely reminders for me and I hope reminders to us all that our thoughts are our point of attraction. If we feel frustrated then we attract more frustration. If we feel happiness then we attract more of that.

Best
Neil

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In this article I’m going to lay things on the line concerning a couple of phrases you may have heard being banded around spirituality circles. I’m doing this because I think we all owe it to ourselves to develop a fuller relationship with certain areas of our lives. Through the experience of doing this, we can grow.

One of the favourite phrases I hear in New Age spirituality is: ‘Give what you want to get.’ If you want money, you give money and money comes back to you. Another quote I hear in spirituality is the old Gandhi quote, ‘Be the change you want to see’ or its sister, ‘Act as if.’

Spirituality and Money
For many people The idea of ‘Giving money to get money’ hasn’t worked. And why should it? If you’re only going to give in the hope or expectation of getting, there is something wrong with the transaction – it’s being done with a motive.

Since many people involved in spirituality have money issues, let’s apply this ‘Give what you want to get,’ phrase to money. When people hear this idea their response is most often: ‘But how can I give when I have nothing to give?’ or ‘I can hardly afford my bills!’

In this sense the ‘Give what you want to get’ ideal may as well be substituted for ‘Let’s hit and hope.’ I suggest this because the phrase in itself usually only brings up desperation. For me, this type of quip, offered within spirituality concerning money, is nothing more than a cop-out comment offered by people who don’t have any practical knowledge of how to make money, respect it and nurture its growth so we can effect change in the world.

Spirituality and The Practical
In the ‘Act as if’ suggestion we do have a little more practical opportunity. Speaking from experience (having been obese once upon a time) how can you be twenty stone and ‘act as if’ you were the person who is one hundred and four pounds lighter than you. He could run without his inner thighs catching fire. He could tie his shoe laces without his belly getting in the way and do the downward dog in yoga without being choked by the double chin.

So what do we do with these phrases?
I admit, I have wanted to gather up all the people who proffered such airy-fairy advice and lead them all to the tallest tower in far far away land (I did think I might put pink fluffy stuff on the prison bars). I’ve come out the other side of that thinking now and hope I can offer you something of substance.

Money and Spirituality
Let’s go back to ‘Give what you want to get’ and money. For a moment just think of the possibility that you don’t actually have to give money to get it – I know you suddenly feel relieved, don’t you? Good. And what if it’s not about giving money per se? What if all you have to do is give yourself to the experience and relationship you have with money?

I didn’t like my financial situation and wanted to change it forever. During a twelve-month period I immersed myself in understanding my experience and relationship with money. I read books. I met millionaires. I got in conversation with people who were wealthier than me and examined my own attitude and habits towards spending, budgeting, savings, longer-term investments.

Quite literally I gave myself to the experience and relationship of money. I learned a greater respect and appreciation for money. I came to understand money. I nurtured my relationship with money. I cared for money. I cared how I spent it. I cared about the people I spent it with. I grew to love it and accept it as part of my experience and came to really honour it for the choices it gave me.

The Act of Spirituality
With ‘Act as if’ we may have to chunk it down (forgive the pun). If you are twenty stone and want to get to twelve, start by aiming for nineteen stone. Get to understand that the best way to eat a lot of food is to live a long time! Start to swim or walk once a day and build up your endurance over the course of time. Start your food education. Investigate what goes into your mouth and the effects it has on your body. Read. Research the Internet and speak to people who enjoy the kind of health and vitality you’d like to have. Get to understand your relationship with food, exercise and health. Notice how food affects your spirituality. Pay attention to when you’re really tired or just being lazy – yes there is a difference! You may also want to consider my Special Offer on coaching.

A Task for You to Consider This Week:
Where in your life do you use or subscribe to superficial metaphors or thinking? How can you develop your experience and relationship with it?

To those of you who know us – may I express my deep appreciation for your interest in CommunitySoul. You inspire me to continue writing and finding new ways to teach people how to live consciously and work together for a better Community.

I hope that today’s article will be of help to you or someone you know. I hope I have not offended your religion or spirituality and wish you a wonderful week!

Neil

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Free-will is important to us all. Wars have been fought for it and we’d fight them again if we realised someone was trying to take our free will away from us. But have you considered that your free- will is being eroded in such a subtle way that, before you know it, you’ve lost it?

Our will-power is best considered when looking at what we eat. Eating well is vital to our well being – you don’t have to be Einstein to know that. Yet many of us have given little consideration to what we put in our mouths, other than to think about the explosion of flavour.

I’m going to go on here and talk about food, but you could just as easily substitute what I say about food to what happens with your TV set, your cigarette smoking, drinking, newspapers and the negative stories and the business of life and do-do-doing.

For around the first twenty-two years of my life I ate what my mother cooked for me.  Beyond that I ate what my wife cooked for me, plus what the advertisers told me was good for me. By the time I reached the age of twenty-five I was eighty pounds overweight. By the time I reached thirty, I’d ballooned by another seventy pounds.

Looking at the statistics of obesity, I’d say my experience is quite typical. It all happens because we fail to take responsibility for what goes into our mouths and because advertisers know how to get us in a buying trance where we ignore everything else except the feeling of their product in our stomach. This failure to take responsibility is what determines that we live our lives according to someone else’s will.

Is it any different in other areas of life: sitting mesmerised, channel hopping – nothing’s on but you can’t turn it off; you know smoking is bad for you, but it makes you feel a little happier with life; the news is disheartening, but you read it anyway, with a morbid hope that by somehow reading it, everything will get better.

And what can you do when TV advertisers make pizza look mouth-watering, chocolate look sexy, they tell us milk has calcium that’s good for our bones and that wine is good for the heart. And we believe what they tell us… usually without question.

Why?

Over a year we’re bombarded with this image or that. They come via our TV, on billboards, in magazines, via the Internet. It is little wonder that if we don’t have a strong will and line drawn in the sand, that we will eventually succumb to the power of the advertiser.

When we think of their product, we remember how delicious it looked. When we taste it, we know it will taste fantastic – because the advertiser told us it would – when we smell it we remember it for next time.

And we then get bombarded with more adverts telling us this or that is for us. Our will weakens and once again we succumb to the advertiser.

It’s little wonder the nation is gaining weight, under stress, fed up and feeling like identity with our selves has been lost.  It’s like we’re in a trance drifting along a pavement, remembering the tasty images we’ve seen on TV; remembering the feeling in our mouth; remembering the experience of eating; remembering the smelling the bread or the coffee as the waft of crispy chicken wings drifts along the high street as a call to you, to stop in, fill up and feel good.

It’s like we can’t help but smoke, or drink, or work because we know we’ll get sacked if we don’t.

But do the processed foods that look good on TV and taste sensational in our mouths sustain us? Do our habits or addictions or our lifestyle make us feel good day-to-day. Are we functioning at maximum output or left with the sense that there must be more to life.

Reclaim your free-will. Don’t just eat things because you have always eaten them or because the TV says you should -  don’t trust anyone who has a vested interest in the product. If they are advertising the product, they’re making money on it and might not have given your overall health much thought.

And why should they?

A food manufacturing company makes food. It’s your responsibility to choose if you want to eat it or not. If you want to feel great and look good then choose the food that goes with that. If you want to feel sluggish and enjoy having rolls of fat hanging over your belt then buy the food that goes with that. It’s your right to have bad breath and have smelly clothes as much as your right to have perfect health; it’s your right to do what you’re told at work as it is to have respect for your personal life.

How do you make these informed choices?

Remember every decision you make is like putting fuel inside you. It ignites your passion or douses the fire. You wouldn’t put diesel in your unleaded fuel tank would you? Don’t risk putting fuel in your engine that might cause you to lose power. Reclaiming your will power put the right fuel in your tank, every time.

Best Wishes
Neil
What do you think? Do you have control of your willpower and free will? Would love to hear your thoughts, so feel free to leave a comment.

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I don’t recall one school lesson that taught money management skills. My guess is that your experience is quite similar.

The lure of money pulled me out of sixth form early. I’d found a job and the thought of stacking money up in the bank and also having stuff I fancied but previously couldn’t get had a massive appeal to me at seventeen.

I worked hard and soon became the best sales person I could be. With the commission, I was soon able to buy myself a car. I found a girlfriend and later began to enjoy things like beer and clubbing. When the appeal of all that died away, I settled down: got married, got a monthly repayment – commonly known as a mortgage – and had my first child. All fairly typical up to this point.

I bought a mortgage because I’d heard that a house was an asset. As no one had ever shown me what an asset looked like on a financial balance sheet I fell for it, hook line and sinker, because the truth is a mortgage is not an asset to me. But it is to my bank. My mortgage was in truth a liability to me.

What’s an Asset?
Good question. An asset is something that earns you money. How much does your mortgage earn you? Most likely your mortgage costs you. For example an £80,000 mortgage over a normal period at a usual kind of rate will mean repayments of around around £210,000.

Does that sound like an asset?
Sure you can argue that your home will rise in value. But does that earn you money? Probably not. Here’s why.

Your bank knows that you won’t complete the term. They know that in 6-8 years you’re going to move on and take out another loan, usually a bigger debt and a bigger loan.

A Mortgage is ‘For Life’
The word mortgage is derived from the French word ‘Mortif’ which literally means ‘For life.’ And this is most likely where your bank has you… for life.

Why the Rich Get Richer…
The rich get richer because they understand more about money than most people do. They got educated. They know that working for a living means you get taxed and pay your NI contribution before you get your hands on the money. So they go into business. This means that they take their legitimate expenses off pre-tax, pay less tax and end up with more disposable income from the profits.

Why Become Self-Employed?
When I became self-employed – and this may be true for you too – it wasn’t for tax breaks, but to get out of the rat-race and do something I loved, while at the same time creating freedom of time. The tax breaks are a bonus – well, they are if you can earn enough.

The problem for many self-employed people is that they know how to do their task, say massage therapy or homeopathy, but don’t have the marketing skills to drive a stampede of customers through the door. That’s why so many businesses end up closing within three years.

I’ve put together my top tips for spiritual people on earning money.  These are below. They cover business as well as personal expenses.

1. If you pay money out on loans, a mortgage or a credit cards, you do not have assets, but liabilities. You are therefore the banks asset.

2. Begin to educate yourself financially. Is it your wish to see your money be put to uses you approve of? There are some excellent books on making money from money. Start to read them and edge towards financial freedom, rather than financial control.

3. Reduce your expenses to a minimum. Find 10% of your income and use it to reduce your loans. Wealthy, financially free people, know to always clear their debts as early as possible. Once your debts are paid, you can invest in the kind of good, ethical business you believe in.

I hope these ideas help you.

Best, Neil

Would love to hear your opinion. Feel free to add a comment.

Neil Fellowes shows conscious entrepreneurs, coaches, consultants and complementary therapists how to make a difference AND a profit. Visit his website at http://www.communitysoul.co.uk

When you set a goal, that’s just the beginning.

What is it you need to do next to have your vision happen?

Decide on your goal - work out a plan - then move forward.

Way One – The Planning: Do you have to write a plan? Pick up the phone and ask someone for help? Find a mentor?  Is there a book you need to read? A website you need to go to? A product you need to buy? Help you need to enlist?

Make a list of all the steps and make a start. Then proceed.

But it’s not just what you need to do…

Way Two – Take note of the things that cause you discomfort or the things you usually leave undone. It’s madness that we do that kind of thing, but we do!

Why do we do it? We do it because we actually don’t like change much. And why would we? After all, we just spent our who life getting this way, so why would we want it to be any different?

For me, too often in the past I left details undone, so it tripped me up. I didn’t tidy up the little snags. For you, you might notice other things you do that trip you up.

These things that trip you up are things that cause a disconnect with a prospective client or customer, so you have to resolve these snags.

Way Three - When you notice you are doing something that stops you from achieving your goal, you find a solution.

There are other things that can stop you from getting the results you want.

Some people might know they need to make sales calls, but shy away from it. But remember, just because your business needs sales calls made, doesn’t mean you have to make them.

Like with all business problems (and life) you just need to find your way around the problem… over the problem or through the problem.

From there all you do is keep checking on what might stop you. Doing this closes the gap between what you want and where you are.

Happy results!
Neil

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You’re probably familiar with the term “Fake it till you make it” – but does it work?

Years ago, when I was reconstructing life after a torrid time, I was making some decisions on what I wanted in my life.

I made a list, not just of the things and the people I wanted in my life, but who I would need to become to have those things.

At the time I was around 20st in weight and I wanted to be 13st. So I knew I need to begin to think like a 13st person.

At the time I was also without a relationship and I knew I wanted someone who had certain qualities and it seems only right that in order to attract a person who has those qualities I would need to be showing similar attributes.

If I tried to fake those attributes until I found the person I wanted and then reverted back to type, there would have been a miss-match, so I had to be honest and be sure that the changes I wanted to make would be changes that I really wanted.

And this is about me and you stepping up to be all we can be as we attract into our lives the things we desire most. This is about holding a vision of who we want to be and what we want to have around us.

I lost 7st in 6 months and met Jo days after I made the decision about what I wanted to be and who I wanted in my life.

Something else I used to do was use a back injury to manipulate situations – usually to get others to do things for me or to get out of doing something (I’m sharing this because I know some of you may use injuries in this way too).  But behaving like this no longer served me so I wanted to change. It pinches life from others and it serves no one.

I wanted my back injury to go, so I started to do exercises that supported my back. I had several holistic therapies over a year, all of which helped in various ways.

Sometimes I was in excruciating pain, but I found ways to work around it. I accepted that the pain might be me hitting a new (higher) limit of what I was capable of and I pushed myself a little further – I faked feeling better a little.

Eventually the back problem was no longer a problem (and certainly no longer an excuse).

So does fake it till you make it work. I think yes, if you are being authentic and genuine in that you are acting in new ways to become someone new.

What are your experiences?

Best  wishes
Neil

Neil Fellowes shows conscious entrepreneurs, coaches, consultants and complementary therapists how to make a difference AND a profit. Visit his website at http://www.communitysoul.co.uk

As you probably know by now, we’ve been helping people – people just like you and me – to live life with purpose, passion and spirit at work and in everyday life for around five years.

The word community means “coming into unity” and CommunitySoul was inspired by a vision of people coming into unity with your soul… expanding, gently growing, being all you can be… loving life… engaging with the adventure of life.

For a long time I’ve been aware that anger, frustration, pain, fear and the like are just pointers – reminders that we have become disconnected from what’s  most important in life.

I’ve had my fair share of the painful side of life and used it time and again to resolve what’s happening. I’ve also taught others how to do this and have seen their lives changed beyond belief in a short space of time.

It’s using the pain points in life that have helped me create a life I love. I’m living in a place that’s at the base of the Mendip hills in the south west of the UK. I’ve got horse paddocks behind me and hills all around, and in the distance I have what an estate agent would call sea glimpses.

Jo and I got married just over a year ago and and for that I took 6 weeks off. And that’s not something everyone can do.

I have two kids, with who I have great relationships, and I’m one of the blessed parents whose kids tell them what a great dad I am (and it’s not always preceding a request for money or a lift!).

I’m engaged in work that  I  adore and find inspiring, serving people who want to become more… and I love that as human beings we can always expand a little more.

I’m not ever-so wealthy, but I am debt-less, and I could take six months off work without worrying and it feels good to have that kind of security.

And I’m sharing this with you because…

I want you to know that whatever setbacks you have, whatever you go through, you can build the life you want to live, from whatever starting point you are at right now.

When you are unhappy with something, it’s evidence that something needs to change. And you are the one who has to… and who can… change it.

Best wishes
Neil

http://www.communitysoul.co.uk

Do you believe the world is abundant and you can have pretty much anything you want?

Living in an abundant world, for me, doesn’t necessarily mean having more. Sometimes it’s having less and doing more with what you have.

I like to live lightly. I avoid hoarding things, tend not to be overly sentimental and am increasingly less likely to become attached to objects and outcomes. Other people are different, and that’s okay.

Recently, up in the attic, we reached a decision: that the kids old toys could be put to better use in other people’s homes. It was time to let go.

Rummaging through the boxes, I sat on the loft boards and took a deep breath. Did my kids value these objects?

Yes, for a few months at a time they probably treasured all of them. I reflected on the journey of the toys. The workers who managed the machines, the machines that did the work, the people who dug up the resources, the lorry drivers and the shippers who brought them here in containers…

An enlightened master I met two years ago said, “Love is wherever you see tenderness expressed”.

Looking at the toys, I felt grateful for all of the contributions that created toys for my children. And at the same time made a vow to make wiser choices about what I buy.

I took the children’s toys, with some of the things I no longer had use for to a car boot sale. Taking a break from my stall I took a wander around to the other 150 stalls and noticed something…

So many other people were selling the same or similar things.

Two days later my parents, who are selling up the family home of 32 years to move to a smaller place, delivered two beds they no longer had use for. These were better than the ones we already had, though our existing ones had plenty of bounce left in them!

We offered these through Freecycle to anyone who could collect them and had them taken off our hands within 6 hours. And it brought us a great deal of satisfaction to make the contribution to someone else.

In terms of being tender to the world, I had to ask a question to myself: do we need more stuff? New things can be nice, but when you look around the things that others are giving away, or selling off for next to nothing to make room for the next thing, you can really see the abundance in the world and the fact that you can have almost anything you want for next to nothing.

If you want something and having it new isn’t vital to you, why not get it for nothing at Freecycle. If you can’t get it there, what about asking a friend or going to a car boot sale.

Remember abundance isn’t about more… sometimes it’s having more with what you have.

Best wishes
Neil

http://www.communitysoul.co.uk

Sitting down, on the floor in my living room, with Jo and a dozen bits of scrap paper neatly placed around us, isn’t the way we always spend a Saturday night. But what a night it turned out to be…

I’d just spent the day with my favourite teacher, Dr. William Bloom, as he gave his take on Creating and Manifesting a great life. He’d been asking a question during his course: “Who is telling my story?”

I thought about some of my beliefs, behaviours and values and mulled over where those patterns had been instilled – at school, by parents, friends, work colleagues, sports team managers etc.

There were a few beliefs and behaviour’s that struck me, but one I particularly want to share with you, in case you have something similar to heal…

During my school days I was always picked for leadership – team captain, town, county and club, games captain and prefect. I loved lifting trophies, hated losing, and always led by example. In football – my favourite sport – it was a thrill to captain lads who went on to sign for Arsenal, West Ham and Northampton.

I missed out on trials for Leicester because of a back injury and never got another chance to fulfil my footballing dream. (Ahhh!)

I ended up playing for the second best semi-pro outfit in the town, doing a solid job at centre half, but hankering to play in my best position, fullback. When I asked the manager to switch me, he said he’d think about it. The next match, he gave me the only roasting a team manager ever gave me, and he did it in front of the rest of the team, just because I’d asked him to play me where I knew I’d deliver my best for the team.

If that humiliation wasn’t enough, he dropped me to the 3rd team reserves the following week.

Had I dug in, gritted my teeth and fought my way back, maybe I’d have eventually worked my way back into the team and gone on to fulfill my footballing dream… who knows? But it wasn’t to be…

So as a 17 year old, I chose not to roll up my sleeves and pull out the fire from within. My will broken, I gave up. Told the manger where to shove his team and entered a bitter loop.

With my old friends playing professionally, me missing my golden opportunity, ending up at semi-pro level and then being dropped to the 3rd team, I became trapped in the experience of “not feeling good enough” – a psychological drama that many people share, for lots of different reasons.

But what’s all this got to do with sitting on the living room floor with Jo on a Saturday night?

Well, I’d become interested with the differences that separate success from failure and I wanted to ensure I ditched this not-feeling-good-enough feeling. It was no longer serving me and the direction my life was going in.

So I wrote down, “not good enough and weak willed” on this scrap of paper. Then I sat back and wondered, if I turned this over to the Universe (God, the Tao, Spirit – or whatever you want to call it) how would this experience be used as a force for good.

The answer was simple. “By determination and excellence.”

When I read the life story of top football manager, Sir Alex Ferguson, I was left in no doubt that when he was faced with similar situations of being dropped as a footballer, he was tougher than me. Today, as a manager he buys only excellence and demands excellence from his team every time.

So I adopted his determination and pursuit of excellence and asked another question, “How would I express this determination and excellence?”

The answer: put in five times more effort. So I have.

I began by clearing space. I looked at habits and behaviours that were not determined and began changing them. When I do something that doesn’t match the new standard, I go back and do it again and again until it is.

You see, being in a flow of having more isn’t just about asking for more – it’s about matching up to what you want. Having more isn’t just about writing down a goal. It’s not making a wish. It’s about putting your soul into the thing you want and doing it with love, joy compassion and good grace that honours your journey and the new you that is emerging.

Who is telling your story? What holds you back? What would life be like if you changed that forever?

How about you change it?

With love

Neil

http://www.communitysoul.co.uk